Why is "special snowflake" ableist? The "special" clearly means "unique and different", but is there some other reason entirely?

"special" in a derogatory context is always ableist

it;s clearly coded to mean mentally disabled - i.e. “special needs” 

one night only fractal drunk quest iii: live drunk or die hard is updating again

come chekc it out. i might punch a seasgull


In many ways I wonder if Sapphophobia would be better suited as a phrase to describe the combination specifically of the hypervulnerabilities created by the oppression of both queerness and womanhood in people, of which lesbophobia and women directed biphobia are both merely components.

Sappho was a part of a culture within which the concepts of lesbian and bisexual did not exist as we understand them. Lesbians taking her on as a symbol is just as inaccurate as bisexual women taking her on as a symbol. She would have conceived of herself very differently then any of us do.

And the endless pointless fights over whether she was actually a lesbian or actually bisexual are just that, pointless. Endless. She remains, in the end, a symbol of queerness. A poet who spoke of both men and women, a poet who loved both men and women, and that could be a lesbian or a bisexual woman (identity wise) but such a person in this day in age would be undeniably queer, regardless of how she identified herself.

It would mean that bi women ought to seek another word for our specific struggles (because the ways this Combined Sapphophobia manifests for us is different than for lesbians and it’s good to have language to make that distinction) that won’t be confused for the combined word.

But I feel like Sapphophobia works very nicely as an overall queer woman descriptor for the specific misogyny transmuted homophobia (and homophobia transmuted misogyny) that all queer women face overall (that then splinters based on type and other oppression vulnerabilities)


I welcome input from both bisexual women and lesbian women.

I do NOT welcome input from men of any kind


So why did you start a blog? I did cos I wanted to howl into the void more effectively. Maybe make a few puns at the void. Hurl a few selfies into the void. Hope the void thinks I’m pretty. 

If you struggle with self-care and see this, stop what you’re doing


  • Have you eaten in the last 4ish hours?
  • Have you had something to drink today?
  • Can you have something, even if just milk or water or cup’o’noodles or toast with something yummy on it, if you haven’t, please? 
  • If you have any injuries, can you please take care of them for me
  • Also please take any meds if you should and haven’t, yet?

Whatever you have or haven’t done today just know you’re super strong and I am so proud of you

Okay you can go back to blogging now~ <3

cee, I'm away from my girlfriend for the next twelve months because of visa issues... before I left we'd been talking about going poly, but now I'm here I don't think I can handle it? is it unfair to ask her to not date anyone else until I get back?

no, i don’t think so. it might be upsetting to her for you to be “going back” on yr previous arrangement but your feelings are just as important as hers are in this situation and the two of you need to talk to figure out what to do together, and discussing something - or even agreeing on it - in a relationship does not mean that you’re disallowed from changing your mind, so long as you have a discussion about the change.

i can’t tell you how things will pan out or what you should say but i CAN tell you that the only good way to go here is to be frank and honest, even if that’s uncomfortable or awkward. the two of you need to be really, really real about your feelings, and being sensitive to one another and compromising is NOT the same as holding things back to avoid conflict, and the best way the two of u can get through this as smoothly and healthily as possible is to set aside as much time as it needs and really, REALLY dig deep re: yr emotions and reservations. get EVERYTHING out on the table as much as u can and things will be MUCH, MUCH easier as the coming year proceeds, no matter what the two of you end up deciding on

good luck!!!

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DON’T PRETEND U DIDN’T SMILE. don’t pretend that yr lips didn’t at least twitch a little bit

i think what we can take away from this entire kinversation (see what i did there. do u get it. do u g. do u see) is that ppl who go out of their way to harass and mock kids on the internet for exploring new ways to feel comfortable in their skin and express themselves are generally Bad News

i was talking to someone and they said there were no such thing as TERFs and its just a term to discredit radfems and i just???? what????

radfems can discredit themselves with or without our help creating terms that exhibit what they really are. like, trust me, they don’t need any new terminology for that. shrugs aggressively @ the person who said that

Gosh that is so relieving, I have spent so much time hiding myself inside so people don't make comments about my chest in public (large...ick.) so I always pretend to friends that's why I dislike leaving the house, but I'm thinking more and more about being honest with the people in my life. Thank you Cee, I cried at that. It feels good to finally have someone validate me. You make a pretty damn good parental figure.

it makes me downright fucking FURIOUS that i am the first person you’d ever heard that from because that’s not right and i wish that you’d been vindicated in this YEARS before this

but. i’m happy that it helped, and i’m happy that you feel validated, and i’ll be here for support no matter who/when you decide to tell or not tell

its ok to have Bad Feelings about the parts of yr body that aren’t right for you, and its ok if it takes a while to get it all figured out and taken care of, and i wish u all the best in navigating yr relationship w yr body and yr gender and the ppl around u, bc u deserve the best! hugs if u want them